To Build Rapport in Job Interviews and Networking, Watch this Video

To Build Rapport in Job Interviews and Networking, Watch this Video ShareShare1 We all have things we do naturally that foster rapport, such as being polite and considerate, smiling, and so on. Yet sometimes we may come away from a conversation thinking somehow we just didnt connect, or I dont think they liked me. So heres an additional technique to help you consistently create positive connections. How to build rapport with your interviewer and networking contacts through mirroring. Ive covered this topic in my blog before with another video, but the video below focuses more clearly on specific aspects of body language. I recommend you watch both. Later in the post Ill answer some commonly raised questions and even concerns. But first, heres the video with Carol Kinsey Gorman, author of The Nonverbal Advantage. You see how easy it is? Will you use it in your conversations today and in your next interview? If not, I wonder whether you have some reservations about consciously using this communication technique. Read on, please. Lets look at some common questions and concerns about intentionally mirroring body language. Wont the other person know Im mimicking them and be creeped out by it? Because we mirror each other unconsciously and naturally all the time, nobody will notice you doing it. If you dont believe me, try it. Ill feel weird/uncomfortable doing this. Maybe you will, but only at first. Try it first with a friend or family member. Once you have a little experience, mirroring an interviewer or a networking partner may actually make you feel more comfortable and relaxed, not less. Mirroring feels good! It seems manipulative. What about dressing nicely for the interviewmore nicely than youll probably dress on the joband planning your answers? Is that manipulative? If so, I guess you have to just throw on whatever you happen to have in the closet and go in without giving it much thought. That doesnt make sense. My own philosophy is that the best approach to interviewing and networking is both authentic and strategic. Mirroring is authentic if you do it in a spirit of friendliness and respect, as a way of putting people at ease. Also, realize that your mirroring will affect you as much as the other person. Social psychologists know that action creates emotion and fake it til you make it is actually a wise saying. Done with good intentions, your mirroring will tend to make you sincerely like the other person. You start out with an imitation of rapport but it quickly becomes real. Think of mirroring as a superpower: use it for good and not for evil! Build rapport in your job search networking and look for ways to help the other person as much as theyre helping you. Build rapport in job interviews and do a great job when they hire you. Use mirroring so both sides win. To Build Rapport in Job Interviews and Networking, Watch this Video ShareShare1 We all have things we do naturally that foster rapport, such as being polite and considerate, smiling, and so on. Yet sometimes we may come away from a conversation thinking somehow we just didnt connect, or I dont think they liked me. So heres an additional technique to help you consistently create positive connections. How to build rapport with your interviewer and networking contacts through mirroring. Ive covered this topic in my blog before with another video, but the video below focuses more clearly on specific aspects of body language. I recommend you watch both. Later in the post Ill answer some commonly raised questions and even concerns. But first, heres the video with Carol Kinsey Gorman, author of The Nonverbal Advantage. You see how easy it is? Will you use it in your conversations today and in your next interview? If not, I wonder whether you have some reservations about consciously using this communication technique. Read on, please. Lets look at some common questions and concerns about intentionally mirroring body language. Wont the other person know Im mimicking them and be creeped out by it? Because we mirror each other unconsciously and naturally all the time, nobody will notice you doing it. If you dont believe me, try it. Ill feel weird/uncomfortable doing this. Maybe you will, but only at first. Try it first with a friend or family member. Once you have a little experience, mirroring an interviewer or a networking partner may actually make you feel more comfortable and relaxed, not less. Mirroring feels good! It seems manipulative. What about dressing nicely for the interviewmore nicely than youll probably dress on the joband planning your answers? Is that manipulative? If so, I guess you have to just throw on whatever you happen to have in the closet and go in without giving it much thought. That doesnt make sense. My own philosophy is that the best approach to interviewing and networking is both authentic and strategic. Mirroring is authentic if you do it in a spirit of friendliness and respect, as a way of putting people at ease. Also, realize that your mirroring will affect you as much as the other person. Social psychologists know that action creates emotion and fake it til you make it is actually a wise saying. Done with good intentions, your mirroring will tend to make you sincerely like the other person. You start out with an imitation of rapport but it quickly becomes real. Think of mirroring as a superpower: use it for good and not for evil! Build rapport in your job search networking and look for ways to help the other person as much as theyre helping you. Build rapport in job interviews and do a great job when they hire you. Use mirroring so both sides win.